Ability refers to a person’s capacity for doing what they say they are going to do. To what degree does a person only promise what they are actually capable of doing? Does that person actually follow through on promises or do they say all the right things in the moment only to fail to show up later?
The answer to questions like these demonstrates how much a person has the ability to be trusted. By contrast, untrustworthy people can be charming and well-meaning, but they are unreliable in that they overpromise or lack follow-though.
Integrity means that a person has a sufficiently well-developed value system that they tend not to give offense in the first place, tend to self-correct when they do offend others, or are at least willing to generously hear and respond proactively when they are told they have been offensive.
A person with impaired integrity doesn’t tend to care that he has given offense and becomes automatically defensive if told he has been hurtful in some way. Such a person gives apologies grudgingly and rarely displays the humility necessary to learn from missteps. People who behave this way can’t be trusted because they don’t have a well-developed moral sense. They tend to do what they think they can get away with or manage to explain away and only repent under pressure — and then, only half-heartedly.
People with integrity, on the other hand, see the offenses they commit against others as a mark against their own character, and because they are committed to living out a particular set of values, they work hard to remain faithful to those principles no matter what.
Benevolence refers to the degree to which the person you want to trust has shown you that he or she is willing to work for your good, especially when it has required some sacrifice or inconvenience on his or her part.
A person who is willing to put themselves out for your sake is more worthy of your trust than someone who isn’t. People who lack benevolence could be friendly and charming on the outside, but when you need something, their selfish tendencies come out along with their catalog of excuses.
Even the most irresponsible person manages to follow through occasionally. Even the abusive person manages to say “sorry” or do something nice once in a while. It is our ability to count on a person to demonstrate ability, integrity and benevolence consistently that makes them truly trustworthy. Inconsistently demonstrating the qualities of a trustworthy person is the same as not demonstrating them at all.
Evaluating a person’s ability, integrity, benevolence and consistency versus their unreliability, defensiveness, selfishness and inconsistency enables you to have a clearer sense of how much you can trust someone, in what contexts and to what degree. It can also give you a guide for dealing with those you have a hard time trusting by helping you highlight why and what might be done to resolve those obstacles to trust.
What might be two more traits of people that we can trust?
Do you enjoy sitting between a pregnant woman and a sumo wrestler on your cross-country flight? No problem, right…
You would think that the airplanes would have a public address system without static by now…
Much has been reported recently about violence and overbooked flights. What have the airlines done? Technology has focused on self-centered economic efficiency and not the customers’ comfort and convenience.
Did you check out the “duty-free” in-flight store? Stewardesses modeling apparel, jewelry, pearls, watches, medallions, shoes, religious relics, parachutes, food-to-go, wine and booze, baked goods, luggage, turbans, scarfs, hats, native Indian garments, Mormon garments, pet supplies, toys, pacifiers, plugs, and binkies? Good ideas yet to be implemented. Magazines? Books? Air Phones? Neck and shoulder messages? More good revenue-generating schemes not yet implemented.
You really like a healthy, clean, HEPA-quality breathing air supply? Don’t fly zone then.
Did you think the pilot and purser’s voices sounded like cartoon characters? It may be a recording of Toy Story 4…
Need first aid supplies? Go fish…
Looking for more leg room? Lose weight!
Do you like to lean backwards in your seat? Watch your back!
No longer is cash “legal tender” aboard an aircraft. Thou must pay for everything by credit or debit card…
Good luck on your next flight ;<(
Sometimes in going through our own “Good Fridays,” we will have special need of the support of friends and family, the spiritual guidance of a good priest or someone else who excels in discernment. Perhaps even the help of a doctor or licensed counselor. In any event, persevere through your trials. Remember that Jesus who humanly experienced the anguish of feeling forsaken by God (Mt. 27:46) is the same Jesus who moments later committed his spirit into his Father’s hands (Lk. 23:46), knowing that the Father will test us to foster our spiritual perfection (see Heb. 2:10; 5:7-10), but he will never truly abandon us. Quite to the contrary. Keep that in mind this Holy Week and beyond.
The secret to redemptive suffering, Jesus lets us know, is docility in discipleship: “Let the children come to me, and do not hinder them; for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven” (Mt. 19:14).
Being childlike is definitely not the same as childishness. The latter evinces the immaturity that often goes with childhood. The former bespeaks the radical trust children can often exhibit toward their parents, a trust we don’t like to be reminded that we need to keep exercising in adulthood as the Good Lord’s disciples. The world chafes at childlikeness, precisely because of the radical trust and death to self it requires. Well, it pays to be a docile sheep if you’re following the right Shepherd, who will test and prune like no coach or other earthly mentor, but who also love us and bring us to the greatest fulfillment possible . . . if only we trust.
Jesus leads the way in modeling this radical discipleship, asking his Father in heaven three times to take away his cup of suffering during his Agony in the Garden of Gethsemane, yet always saying submitting his human will to the divine will (Mt. 26:37-44). And so, as we will learn again in the coming days, Jesus appears to be at his ignominiously weakest during his Passion and Death, and yet they paradoxically become the occasion of his greatest triumph—and of our greatest triumph (see 2 Cor. 12:8-10).
~ Tom Nash
National Catholic Register 4/13/17
Viewpoint written by Robert Reich:
1. He called Hillary Clinton a crook.
You bought it.
Then he paid $25 million to settle a fraud lawsuit.…
2. He said he’d release his tax returns, eventually.
You bought it.
He hasn’t, and says he never will.
3. He said he’d divest himself from his financial empire, to avoid any conflicts of interest.
You bought it.
He is still heavily involved in his businesses, manipulates the stock market on a daily basis, and has more conflicts of interest than can even be counted.
4. He said Clinton was in the pockets of Goldman Sachs, and would do whatever they said.
You bought it.
He then proceeded to put half a dozen Goldman Sachs executives in positions of power in his administration.
5. He said he’d surround himself with all the best and smartest people.
You bought it.
He nominated theocratic loon Mike Pence for Vice President. A white supremacist named Steve Bannon is his most trusted confidant. Dr. Ben Carson, the world’s greatest idiot savant brain surgeon, is in charge of HUD. Russian quisling Rex Tillerson is Secretary of State.
6. He said he’d be his own man, beholden to no one.
You bought it.
He then appointed Betsy DeVos as Secretary of Education, whose only “qualifications” were the massive amounts of cash she donated to his campaign.
7. He said he would “drain the swamp” of Washington insiders.
You bought it.
He then admitted that was just a corny slogan he said to fire up the rubes during the rallies, and that he didn’t mean it.
8. He said he knew more about strategy and terrorism than the Generals did.
You bought it.
He promptly gave the green light to a disastrous raid in Yemen- even though all his Generals said it would be a terrible idea. This raid resulted in the deaths of a Navy SEAL, an 8-year old American girl, and numerous civilians. The actual target of the raid escaped, and no useful intel was gained.
9. He said Hillary Clinton couldn’t be counted on in times of crisis.
You bought it.
He didn’t even bother overseeing that raid in Yemen; and instead spent the time hate-tweeting the New York Times, and sleeping.
10. He called CNN, the Washington Post and the New York Times “fake news” and said they were his enemy.
You bought it.
He now gets all his information from Breitbart, Gateway Pundit, and InfoWars.
11. He called Barack Obama “the vacationer-in-Chief” and accused him of playing more rounds of golf than Tiger Woods. He promised to never be the kind of president who took cushy vacations on the taxpayer’s dime, not when there was so much important work to be done.
You bought it.
He took his first vacation after 11 days in office.
On the taxpayer’s dime.
And went golfing.
And that’s just the first month.
by Robert Reich
Besides the upcoming movie trailers, the automobile industry came up with most of the best. Honda’s CRV’s talking yearbook and 84 Lumber’s immigration story were the most inspirational.
Kia’s ad with Melissa McCarthy scored big in USA Today’s annual meter. http://www.usatoday.com/story/sports/ad-meter/super-bowl/2017/02/06/melissa-mccarthy-kia-ad-captures-2017-ad-meter-title/97540302/
“If that car is a Buick, my kid is Cam Newton,” remarks a parent as his child morphs into last year’s Super Bowl quarterback.
Avacados fr0m Mexico featured a member of a Secret Society streaming their activities during a meeting on his cell phone.
Busch beer placed a man disturbing nature while opening up his hissing beer can.
It’s a 10 Hair Care had over a dozen attention-getting styles flashing during their 30 second spot.
The Fabreze commercial reminded viewers to get the air freshioners set up for the rush-to-the-bathroom halftime break.
Skittles showed a young Romeo tossing candies through a second floor window not only to his love but members of her entire family.
This year, for once in the 51 year history of the Super Bowl, the game itself was the highlight of the day! Whether you like the Patriots or not, you have to admit that their comeback was the greatest comeback of all times.
Lessons Learned from Dogs may be ordered through Amazon and Barnes & Noble in time for Christmas.
Source: The Dogs’ Best Friend?
We spent a night and day in Menlo Park speaking of religion. David Fisher was on his way to minister to Montanans. We met at a dinner along the CalTrain tracks sponsored by Street Life Ministries of Redwood City.
Fisher explained, “Money answers all things, money distracts from God, and money causes crime. Therefore, I would rather I have only the money I need to answer the things in life I need it to answer. If I have too much money, it will distract me from God and attract people who are criminals.”
- The more organized you faith is, the less God can work through you.
- Organization is always good when it is God running the organization.
- Most people are exposed to micro-managed faith. The person is the manager, not God.
- God is not allowed to flow in their life.
Let God flow in you and your life, through the name of Jesus Christ.
Credit for this should be given to Holly and Dan Dailey, who worked tirelessly in Minneapolis on this project between 1980 and 2005:
Step 1: Make time for reading with your children.
Step 2: Create an environment for reading.
a) Read aloud to kids everyday,
b) Discuss stories, events, and the world around them,
c) Encourage children to learn letters and words,
d) Take children to libraries and bookstores, and
e) Encourage reading and writing as free-time activities.
Step 3: Read good books and talk about them
This information came from Becoming a Nation of Readers – A Simplified View
from the editors of The Five Owls.
written from “Estrella Vista”, 800 Seaman Road, HC-65, Box 243 A, Alpine, West Texas 79830; telephone (432) 371-4257 –
Dear Family and Friends,
Authentic issues of “Wandervogel Diary,” passed into the afterlife with Dan L. Dailey
in November, 2016.
Being his younger brother of five and a half years, I arrived at Estrella Vista
– originally named the Wandervogelhaus –
on December 11, 2016.
That date is between the birthdays of Dan and David’s only blood-sister, Mary Christine Dailey Schultz Neumann [12-10-1949], and “baby brother” David Arthur Francis Niklas Dailey [12-12-1953].
So in the spirit which is part tradition, genetics, respect, and forward searching,
I am asking diary readers to respond with their best efforts to keep the vision,
mission, goals, and projects of The Redemption Project moving into the right direction.
What Dan L. attempted was never a one-man-job.
He will remain the “face” of the movement and one main source
of inspiration for all of us and many more “movers and shakers” to come. I praise Dan’s assignment of Lone Heron to administer The Redemption Project, which I know I could not be successful leading.
Although I am a writer with great interests in justice, politics, and human development, my focus has been with sports, political satire, public health and safety, and comedy – all kinds of humor, including stand-up entertainment.
I think humor has its place. In The Redemption Project, it needs to be applied carefully,
timely, in the proper situation, among a suitable audience, etc., etc., etc.
Your support of Lone Heron, Dan’s son Henry, and many others working on the project
will be appreciated very much.
Where ever I may be writing my funny stuff,
I will be praying, hoping, and thinking about your future successes.
All the best,
Founder of “The Dailey Sun-Chronicles”
St. Dan Louis’ Web-Blog from Estella Vista, West Texas (written by St. Danny in 2009) fyi: DLD passed away on 11-22-2016
My older brother had a thing about numerology, anniversaries (Kennedy assassination conspiracy theories, etc.), justice particularly for minors with a real rough childhood, and establishing a safe haven for those that could benefit from “getting away from it (rat races) all” where the southwest Texas desert air and mountains offer a respite that will last an improved lifetime.
If you have never red any of his writings, now is the time to also pray that Dan L. has no more time to spend in purgatory, which he believed was only a Catholic myth. Enjoy his style and messages often hidden within the paragraphs and diagrams:
HC-65, Box 243 A
Alpine, TX 79830