Daily Archives: May 20, 2018

manners matter

May 20th would be Dan’s 70th birthday.
This photo is from a book called Tiffany’s Table Manners; I studied it as a young man.

In my early 40s, I taught a workshop “Mr. Manners” for 3rd, 4th, and 5th graders in the Menlo (Park) Lyceum.

Wandervogel Diary

Some time ago I was at a dinner party where there was present at table a guy whose narcissistic deportment was so disruptive I don’t care if we ever become friends.

Not content to listen to the table talk and contribute in appropriate ways, he tried to dominate the conversation even though he had little to say. He kept talking over his wife who was trying to make good points, but was drowned out by him. When he failed to hold everyone’s rapt attention, he shifted to dominating his seating partner’s attention, and the table talk devolved into two competing tracks.

If you think I am making too much of this, I must answer that I believe you can tell a lot about people by how they behave at the dinner table. If someone serves himself overly-large portions which are inconsiderate of there being enough food for others, he will be greedy in other…

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Life Lessons from Uncle Dan and Aunt Holly:

Pentecost Sunday ’18                           Happy Birthday (#1975) to the Christian Church!

What we have heard (Uncle Dan would be #70 today!) and learned:

Dan and Holly. They had a “quiet classiness” that is rare to see these days.

One of Dan’s main points of advice was “don’t give people a reason to say no.” That also means not to deliberately bring negative attention to oneself.

I believe that it’s better to be lost in the crowd than to be remembered for the wrong reasons. I’ve found this important to remember when job searching and negotiating office politics.

I agree with Henderson Louis Dailey.

DAG-Stonehenge